If you are depressed right now, feeling isolated, lonely, and in pain, you may need to reach out and ask for help. Sometimes our feelings of depression come and go and come back again, and we function and go on with our daily lives without intervention. This can still be lonely, and it can feed the feelings of hopelessness, loss of interest, lack of motivation, and suffering.
No one can read your mind or make you tell them you're not okay. The following is an exercise designed for those moments in which you need help, but it's still your secret. You can do this mindfulness exercise in five minutes from whatever quiet place is nearest you, and it can bring a sense of immediate relief, in some small way. You may also want to practice this at times when you're not feeling down. it can be a way to practice changing your thinking habits or simply feel the humanity of compassion.
Positive Connection Through Painful Emotions - 5 minutes
1. Think of a situation that causes you stress. You may be in that situation now.
2. Turn your attention to what is happening on the inside, to your feelings and thoughts.
3. Open the door to the intensity of the emotions for a moment, or allow yourself to recall the highest intensity you ever remember experiencing this pain.
4. Now say to yourself: "This is a moment of suffering." You may call it suffering or pain, but if you can label it more specifically, do so, e.g. resentment, guilt, self-loathing, regret, or grief.
5. Now tell yourself: "This [suffering] is a part of life." Think of all the people around you who may have experienced this feeling in their lives, and imagine people around you in greater and greater circles until you have included all the people in the world.
6. Know you are connected. Place your non-dominant hand over your heart and say: "I am not alone in my suffering (or pain, or struggle). May I become patient with this, and with myself."
7. Finally, as you take in four deep breaths, repeat any words that feel comforting, ring true, or bring softness. Patience. Kindness. Acceptance. Peacefulness. Yes.
I am Lisa and I believe we create our reality. I hope to help empower people to create more mindfully, be kind to oneself and others including animals and the environment, and just generally feel better.